Hello and welcome to Time for Changes!

Here you can find reflections on leaving a nice corporate career behind and dedicating yourself to the family by becoming a wife and mother. Furthermore, you can follow the life changes in the pursuit for another passion: helping others through Coaching and Pilates. Finally, all of this is happening while living in a different country, culture and language – it has definitely been a fun adventure and it’s great to be able to share these changes with you.

The baby section has articles displayed in chronological order but otherwise feel free to navigate randomly through the different posts. They are spontaneous bursts of reflections and reactions along the journey, as different things were happening.

Thank you for being a part of this project, may you find it engaging and enjoyable.

Sometimes, it’s time for a career move. Sometimes, it’s time for more.

Here will be the place and time to share that move. Maybe it will move you too.

Week 14 – Troll!

Week 14 – Troll!

Second Trimester Energy and Confusion Second Trimester - Yuppie! "Looking at pictures is just a perfect recipe to laugh, cry, smile and fall asleep."  I keep hearing about all the wonder of the second semester: more energy and excitement, loads of drive, no more nausea and other funky symptoms... great, bring it on! Except there hasn't been much of a difference and I'm still quite tired all the time. There's an appointment next week so we'll see if the iron levels are good or if there's something else that could explain this.   The belly is changing but still not showing enough for others to see. I like how the body is adapting and the baby is finding his place and warmth to grow. Nature really does find a way to make wonderful things happen. Weird dreams are popping up, not much that I can remember but seem related to the baby. There are ups and downs but I think we'll create a great environment for this child to grow. I'm quite emotional these days. A small comment can make me doubt everything, a song can make me cry and looking at pictures is just a perfect recipe to laugh, cry, smile and fall asleep. I am also second guessing anything: should the baby get a crib or a floor bed? Should I eat this or that? What if I get a cold? I'm also falling off the wagon with meditation which is a pity because it really helps. Here's a commitment to get back on track. Starting now 🙂 Baby is now the size of a troll doll....

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Push and Pull

Push and Pull

Having been a ballet dancer and what not, I can only imagine the type of training and dedication she went through. I wouldn’t be surprised if she thinks she’s actually kind of a softy with me.

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The curve – continued

The curve – continued

Pulling Straps makes me angry. It’s hard to explain but it’s incredibly annoying. I push through it because I know I react like this is because it looks sooooo simple and yet I really struggle with it.

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The curve

The curve

A series of Pilates exercises addressing the curvate of our backs. The focus was on the bend between the lower and upper back.

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Week 13 – Toy Car

Week 13 – Toy Car

Emotional times Trips, Moving, Growing (Emotional) Changes "Is it showing or I am getting fat? Am I tired or getting lazy? Am I hungry or finding excuses for another delicious pear?" The last week of the third trimester. It was a little emotional with a trip to London packed with stress and anxiety. For example, one of the episodes included being evacuated from the hotel I was sleeping at. I was in a training for becoming certified on psychometric and ability tests. This will be very helpful in a coaching context.   The training was good although I was very tired and not getting enough time to recharge and be quiet. It reinforced this idea that I need to find a good balance on how I am spending time and energy. I want to be well rested so I can give what the family needs. We started telling friends about the pregnancy. They were very happy and there was a wide range of advice, questions and wishes flowing around. It felt nice 🙂   Body Changes  The belly is growing and stretching and it's starting to show. I'm feeling round and big... and self-conscious. Is it showing or I am getting fat? Am I tired or getting lazy? Am I hungry or finding excuses for another delicious pear? I also fell off the waggon and ate a few sweets this week. I need to get back on track but it's tough while on the road, where you don't have much control on what and when to eat.   The baby is now the size of a toy car. It...

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Week 12  – Brussel Sprouts

Week 12 – Brussel Sprouts

The baby is the size of a brussel sprout! Vertigo and changes. It's a boy! "It's official: there’s a baby coming, our family is growing and we’ll be forever changed."  The results from the screen test arrived last week and the genetic tests came back normal - yay!!! On top of that, we found out: it is a boy! 🙂 This is truly exciting and now we know our baby a little better.   We told our families that we are expecting a baby, that it's a boy and all is going very well. It was fun to see the diversity of reactions. It was a clear representation of the different personalities in the family. They were all happy, though, and it felt great to tell the news and feel all the excitement from everyone. Now they know and can share the moment and anticipation for the arrival of the new boy.   We started to make the first purchases, such as a baby carrier and a stroller. It's official: there's a baby coming, our family is growing and we'll be forever changed.   I can't wait to meet our boy.   The symptoms are improving but I'm still very tired. Also, the belly is getting even more compact and it's starting to show although maybe it's just my eyes. The weight is still the same, though.   I had a trip last week and we will be travelling again for a few days so now I'm trying to rest as much as possible. I also restarted eating healthy, homemade meals, which has a big impact on mood and energy....

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Week 11 – Bee Hummingbird

Week 11 – Bee Hummingbird

Feeling Vulnerable in a strange land. Vulnerable "Ah, I missed him, I missed home This week I had to go to the UK for a certification training. It was a bit of an adventure as somebody forgot to tell me the training had been cancelled. Ooops. We then tried to pull it off last minute. It took a lot of flexibility from everyone but it ended up being rather good. The highlight though was the realisation that I’m more vulnerable.   I was there alone, which is a great opportunity to enjoy my own company and reset batteries.   There were ambiguity and pseudo plans changing. My usual me wouldn't be bothered by this at all and, in fact, it could be rather fun. But not this time. This time, I just wanted my honey to me tell me everything was great, that we could enjoy the time there anyways.   Together, we would have laughed at paying 5 pounds for a taxi to leave in the same spot instead of taking us to the hotel.   This trickery wasn't funny, though, and I couldn't wait to get out of there, to rest and calm down. I wanted to feel protected and taken care of so I could, in turn, feel I could protect my baby and let him rest and grow.   Instead, I felt fragile and anxious about ensuring a safe and nurturing place for the baby. Could he feel what I was feeling? I hugged my belly and told him we were in this together, that everything was fine, mum was just a little nervous.   The training was...

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Week 10 – Lego Man

Week 10 – Lego Man

Symptoms and doubts The baby is now the size of a Lego man! "And now I can drink water again, as long as it is slowly and just a few sips at the time." The baby is now the size of a Lego man! As that was not awesome enough, the internal organs are now basically there and working by themselves. It's mind blowing. And the baby is touching the face and starting to practice some coordination. Symptoms are touch wood, starting to get a bit lighter, especially nausea. I'm still tired very often but even that seems to be improving. And I now can drink water again, as long as it is slowly and just a few sips at the time. Bathroom issues remain the same, no matter how many veggies and fruit I eat. The metallic flavour on my mouth is mostly gone and the main thing that still catches me up by surprise every now and then is the dizziness when turning or standing up too quickly. The belly is getting firmer, more compact, but not really showing yet. And, yay!, sex drive is coming back! One of the main topics coming to mind is bringing this wonderful human into this world. Natural birth, hospital, epidurals, C-sections, etc, etc. What will feel best for us, what would the baby want, what does the body need? No idea, opinions diverge and the internet is really not helping. I need to select a few key people to ask about this - people whose opinions I value and that seem aligned with my world view. Who and where are...

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Week 9 – Pecan

Week 9 – Pecan

Family Matters The baby is now the size of a pecan! "Sometimes, I almost see our baby, moving and floating, and I imagine how it will feel as the world opens up to him/her. "  Oh, what a week! We went to visit my family and it ended up being quite intense. It seems like each person is going through a transition phase, which is great, but there’s a lot of tension in the air. Also, they could tell something was different about me though they weren’t sure what it was. In the end, we didn’t say we are expecting a baby as it felt too soon and it would just add more excitement to an already over excited group of people. My mother suspected it and even touched my belly and it was interesting to see how invading that felt. There’s something about a hand reaching out of nowhere to touch what is now the most vulnerable and precious part of your body that really put me on alert and made me step back. Something to prepare for, as with a growing belly this is likely to just happen more and more.   Apart from it, it was good to go back home and see the wonderful light of the city, so unique and charming. There was also quite some indulgence, eating the local food and sweets. Nothing too crazy but still significant, which I was able to negotiate with myself. I was there for a few days and it was okay to have a bit of those flavors that I seldom get to taste. Surprisingly, the weight...

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Week 8 – Lego brick

Week 8 – Lego brick

Fizzy water! Oh yeah, nothing so far is more helpful with the nausea. Here I was, always shying away from carbonated water, which feels and tastes like medicine to me. I never got the appeal and, here it is, helping me throughout the day. The little joys and achievements of early pregnancy, I guess. I am trying to stay positive, and usually it's fine but there are moments I think of that popular song that says "I'm sick and tired of always being sick and tired". It's a bit exhausting and it would be nice to have a different answer to give my honey when he comes home and asks me how I am. Apart from this, things are very good. I'm as happy as I could be for not having to go to work, dealing with the standing, the stress and constant pressure to perform at your best, when all you want is to sit down and avoid fainting or fall asleep. We are considering moving to a new place, so it's nice for a family setting, where the kids would be able to grow enjoying the outdoors and a safe, green area. Still, we really like it here and there are budget considerations. We'll keep our eyes open and see what we can find. I remember playing outside growing up, some times by myself, some times with other kids. It was fun and creative. In some areas, if not many, it would now be considered negligence or insanity to leave your kid playing outside. The child might be kidnapped, car hit, or who knows what else. If...

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Week 7 – Chameleon

Week 7 – Chameleon

What a week it has been...! I'm so incredibly tired and sleepy and with this constant half-nausea as an ongoing companion. It is getting slightly better as, apparently, the placenta is starting to do more of its thing. Still, the low energy is a drainer and it's sometimes even hard to express the happiness and gratitude that for sure abound. Pilates keeps me sane as a time and space travel portal that gives me energy and lets me be at peace. Things there are a bit tricky as I am training to be a Pilates instructor but there has been questions about my commitment and now, actually, I'll need to take a break to bring this wonderful baby to life. A little rock in my shoe that I hope won't make any blisters. Anyway, hopefully the energy will start picking up again and there will have more interesting stuff to share here. The baby is now the size of the smallest chameleon in the world, an exciting comparison. I remember being a kid (3-4 years old?) during a family summer vacation on a beach island somewhere. There was this chameleon in the bathroom on the ground floor and it took me a while to grasp what it meant. It seemed, to my innocent children's eyes, that it was melting with the environment and it was, clearly, a magical creature. I feel in love immediately. Another thing on my mind is sharing the baby news. We are visiting my family in a few weeks and it's tempting to share the joy - they will be thrilled. It's also a good...

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Week 6 – Ladybird

Week 6 – Ladybird

The Law of Contradiction The baby is growing and is now the size of a ladybird. How awesome is that? A lot of things are being created and it just feels like a miracle. So many little things happening at the same time, orchestrated by Nature and fuelled by my own body. It's quite surreal but at the same time, whoever I see is the result of that same process. Everyone who ever existed and those who are now alive have been a part of this process. It's unbelievable. In the meantime, there's not much more to report. I'm super tired and just want to sleep the whole time. Unfortunately when I actually try to sleep during the day, nothing happens. I just look at nothingness before giving in to the mobile phone, spending time and eye balls on... can't even remember on what 🙂 Nausea is always there;  but at least I'm not vomiting. Oh, yes, now we are happy that we are not vomiting. My husband is being super patient and helpful in my low energy and "meh" mood; on top of it, he is super excited about the baby and the whole experience - I think, maybe, he'd be happy to get some of my symptoms to share the experience even more. We are so fortunate. I've been reading and researching a lot about the baby, how to prepare, what to expect and so on. One thing is for sure: it's a jungle out there. On any given topic, for every piece of information saying "X", there's another saying "definitely not X". There's just soooo much contradiction....

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Week 5 – Peppercorn

Week 5 – Peppercorn

Baby is coming! Now, that's exciting! My man and I are just in the clouds, as happy as we can be. We just found out while taking a few days off so we are just enjoying the news, Nature and good food. The symptoms are here: tired and sleepy, need to use the restrooms almost every hour but really nothing to complain about. All and all, I'm smiling the whole time, goofy happy and just so grateful. Also a bit worried if everything is happening and progressing well. My doctor is on vacation so we'll only meet on week 8. We went to a doctor here and he said things look good, there's no rush to visit my doctor but he couldn't make all the tests because we wouldn't be here by the time we got the results. Either way, we had our first ultrasound and you could see it, you could clearly see baby's new home! Later in the week, the stomach is feeling a bit uncomfortable but can't really describe how - definitely not running to the WC like in the movies so I guess we are lucky. Baby, mom and dad are super happy. We wanted to register the pregnancy somehow, maybe a photo project but we are not feeling particularly creative. Just in case, we took a couple of pictures to mark the moment, hoping to do the same each week. Thoughts and emotions are all over the place: will it be a boy or a girl? What should we do, eat, see, read, etc? We are going to be awesome parents! The best in...

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Baby is coming!

Baby is coming!

The baby is coming! My honey and I went on this long business trip, with a final destination in Sydney, for 2 weeks. It's true that Sydney in July is facing the Winter but that's the kind of Winter that is just nice and pleasant. Just imagine it, with 20'C temperatures, sunny and a little bit of a breeze o help you going roundabout. It's an awesome city, with a great laid back atmosphere, amazing landscapes and much to do and see. Suddenly,  the main reason to be there was gone. So we decided to cut the trip short and head back to Europe. Goodbye, amazing Sydney. What a bummer! Not only we were going to miss out on the city but the (very long) flight back and sleepy day afterwards but the flight would also be overlapping with the fertile window. What is the fertile window? I also didn't know but, if you are trying to conceive, you will find out about it very soon. It's those days of the month were you have the highest chances of getting pregnant. Hence, you don't want to miss a bit part of these days to fly across the globe and stress about packing. In fact, this meant we were most likely not going to make a baby this month. Still, love happens and we enjoyed our amazing time together 🙂 A couple of weeks later, we are having a tough family week, with lots of intense emotions and not enough rest. It didn't surprise me at all when the PMS started kicking in, a bit strong and different than usual. The period was a day...

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I’ll meet you soon.

I’ll meet you soon.

I'll meet you soon. This time I knew it. I could just feel it in my body that a baby had arrived and was growing inside me. I was glowing with happiness and trying not to get too excited about it. Not before I could take the pregnancy test. But it was clear: the symptoms were there and every single part of me was telling me to connect to my womb where life was just beginning. When the period was expected to came, nothing happened. It was the confirmation of what I sort of knew already. How exciting! I couldn't wait to know for sure, share it with my honey and let the fireworks begin. I was singing and dancing in my mind. The next day came and so did my period. A little discomfort, some warmth and that was it. Dreams crushed in that moment, looking at the drop that told me loud and clear it wasn't happening. I went on denial, looking for all sources of information online that would tell me that, yes, you can bleed and still be pregnant. The implantation bleeding was one of the options. In case you are ever in this situation, note that it tends to happen over a week before the period is expected and it's a bit different. As I was trying to hold on to any hope, the period came in all its glory, leaving no room for doubts. I started crying and hugging my belly as if saying goodbye to my unborn child. Oh, that hurt. My baby wasn't coming and I wouldn't be able to hold him tight. I...

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Exercise Flow – Wunda Chair and Cadillac

Wunda Chair - Footwork This was a nice warm up exercise and an interesting one. Instead of focusing on extending the hips, the focus is on the “return of the pedal”, to the initial position where flexing the hip is actually the main movement. This requires a conscious effort to let go of the hips, letting them fall into their sockets, while moving this whole area. It doesn’t come naturally but it surely sets the note for the rest the session where one needs to let go of the old habits and explore something different. The different foot positions (toes, middle foot, heels) are brilliantly designed to work on the different lines, enhancing the purpose of a nice warm up. On toes: Currently the easiest one, stretching and engaging the Superficial Back Line. It’s a nice stretch and if you manage to keep your upper body centered, you really feel a nice stretch all the way up to the back of your head. On arches: A bit more of a challenge as, unfortunately, my initial thoughts still go towards “I have flat feet…, there are no arches”. Which is a pity because, actually, now there are arches (compared to a year ago) and these feet deserve some more recognition. Moving on, in this position to main line is the Deep Front one, which is the one that tends to bring all these surprising reactions and emotions to the surface. To be treated with respect and curiosity. When it works, it really works and there’s a sense of growing emotionally and literally. On heels:The toughest, from a mechanical perspective. It...

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Expand and let go

Expand and let go

A Pilates session aimed at letting go and releasing a lot of tension in the hips. How embracing fears and insecurities can enable your body and flexibility.

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Detox

Detox

So, what happens when you leave the place you've been intensely working at for the past ten years? Surprisingly little, at first. I still wake up from dreams about work, wondering about a report, or a project that needs to get done. A keyword, a name will trigger an association with work and the impulse to find out more, to interfere. I still say we/our when in reality it's they/theirs. Every now and then there is a pang of anxiety, a feeling that this is just a vacation, an interruption; a sense of the floor slipping under my feet. There are also some artefacts from work. I made my best to not follow the urban myth that all employees steal something from the company but a few things remained nonetheless: the company credit card, the mobile SIM card, stickers from events, etc. Looking at those remind me of my previous second-home; the place I'd go to when I needed to escape from problems, to feel I can deliver and remind myself that there are things I am good at. It was also a way to avoid confronting what I really wanted and needed in life. Now, don't get me wrong - it was a really good company to work for and it gave me a lot and I gave it a lot. No criticism, no judgement, a lot learned and a lot lived. It's just it's still running in my blood and it's time to get it out of my system. So, I've been looking at ways of getting rid of these items; to burn and let them go....

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